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Wednesday
Oct212020

We must make moral choices about how we relate to social media

My newest article on ethics and social media has just been published by The Conversation. You can read it below.

We must make moral choices about how we relate to social media apps

The Social Dilemma/Netflix
Dion Forster, Stellenbosch University

Recently a South African radio show asked, “If you had to choose between your mobile phone and your pet, which would choose?” Think about that for a moment. Many callers responded they would choose their phone. I was shocked… But to be honest, I give more attention to my phone than to my beloved dogs!

Throughout history there have been discoveries that have changed society in unimaginable ways. Written language made it possible to communicate over space and time. The printing press, say historians, helped shape societies through the mass dissemination of ideas. New modes of transport radically transformed social norms by bringing people into contact with new cultures.

Yet these pale in comparison to how the internet is shaping, and misshaping, our individual and social identities. I remember the first time I heard a teenager speaking with an American accent and discovered she’d never been out of South Africa but picked up her accent from watching YouTube. We shape our technologies, but they also shape us.

The potentially negative impacts of social media have again been highlighted by The Social Dilemma on Netflix. The documentary, which Facebook has slammed as sensational and unfair, shows how dominant and largely unregulated social media companies manipulate users by harvesting personal data, while using algorithms to push information and ads that can lead to social media addiction – and dangerous anti-social behaviour. Among others, the show makes an example of the conspiracy theory QAnon, which is increasingly targeting Africans.

Despite its flaws, the doccie got me wondering what our relationship should be to social media? As an ethics professor, I’ve come to realise that we must make moral choices about how we relate to our technologies. This requires an honest evaluation of our needs and weaknesses, and a clear understanding of the intentions of these platforms.

Tug-of-war with technology

Yuval Noah Harari, author of Sapiens, contends it’s our ability to inhabit “fiction” that differentiates humans. He claims you “could never convince a monkey to give you a banana by promising him limitless bananas after death in monkey heaven”. Humans have a capacity to believe in things we cannot see – which changes things that do exist. Ideas like prejudice and hatred, for example, are powerful enough to cause wars that displace thousands.

The wall between Israel and Palestine was conceived in people’s minds before being transformed into bricks and barbed wire. Philosopher Oliver Razac’s book Barbed Wire: A political history traces how this razor-sharp technology has been deployed from farms that displaced indigenous peoples to the trenches of World War I and the prisons of contemporary democracies.

A young woman in a bathroom is engaged with her mobile phone, reflected in a mirror.
Sophia Hammons as Isla in The Social Dilemma. The Social Dilemma/Netflix

Technology is in a constant psychological, political and economic tug-of-war with humanity. Yet, some of today’s technologies are much more subtle than barbed wire. They are deeply integrated into our lives – they know us better than we know ourselves.

I have thousands of ‘friends’ on social media – far too many to relate to meaningfully. Yet, at times I can be more present to people that I have never met than I am to my family. This is not by chance – social media platforms are designed to seek and hold our attention. They are businesses, intent on making money. Harvard University professor Shoshana Zuboff, who features in the documentary, explains in The Age of Surveillance Capitalism that social media “trades exclusively in human futures”.

We are the product

Zuboff says that social media platforms exploit our emotions and pre-cognate needs like belonging, recognition, acceptance and pleasure that are ‘hard wired’ into us to secure our survival.

Recognition relates to two of the primary functions of the brain, avoiding danger and finding ways to meet our basic survival needs (such as food or a mate to perpetuate our gene pool). These corporations, she says, are hiring the smartest engineers, social psychologists, behavioural economists and artists to hold our attention, while interspersing adverts between our videos, photos and status updates. They make money by offering a future that their advertisers will sell you.

Or, as former Google and Facebook employee Justin Rosenstein, says in The Social Dilemma:

Our attention is the product being sold to advertisers.

If our adult brains are so susceptible to this kind of manipulation, what effects are they having on the developing minds of children?

Trailer for The Social Dilemma.

The documentary also reminds the viewer that social media has a more subtle and powerful influence on our lives – shaping our social and political realities.

Fake news and hate speech

The documentary uses an example from 2017 in which Facebook use is linked to violence that led to the displacement of close to 700,000 Rohingya persons in Myanmar. Something that doesn’t really exist (a social media platform) violently changed something that does exist (the safety of people). Facebook was a primary means of communication in Myanmar. New phones came with Facebook pre-installed. What users were unaware of was a ‘third person’ – Facebook’s algorithms – feeding information that included hate speech and fake news into their conversations. In Africa, similar reports have emerged from South Sudan and Zimbabwe.


Read more: Netflix's The Social Dilemma highlights the problem with social media, but what's the solution?


Another example used is the Cambridge Analytica scandal, which also played out in Africa, most notably in Nigeria and Kenya. Facebook user information was mined and sold to nefarious political actors. This information (like what people feared and what upset them) was used to spread misinformation and manipulate their voting decisions on important elections.

What to do about it?

So, what do we do? We can’t very well give up on social media completely, and I don’t think it is necessary. These technologies are already deeply intertwined with our daily lives. We cannot deny they have some value.

However, just like humans had to adapt to the responsible use of the printing press or long distance travel, we will need to be more intentional about how we relate to these new technologies. We can begin by cultivating healthier social media habits.

We should also develop a greater awareness of the aims of these companies and how they achieve them, while understanding how our information is being used. This will allow us to make some simple commitments that align our social media usage to our better values.The Conversation

Dion Forster, Head of Department, Systematic Theology and Ecclesiology, Stellenbosch University

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

Friday
Sep112020

The Social Dilemma - Social media and the (mal)formation of identity

 

Last night our family sat down to watch the new Netflix documentary, 'The Social Dilemma'. It is well worth watching, and even more important to do so as a family!
One of the points that struck me was the claim that only 2 contemporary industries refer to their clients as users - drug dealers, and social media platforms! I'm sure there are more, but the point is well taken.
As many of you know, I focussed on cognitive neuroscience and identity formation in my first PhD. I have always been fascinated by the ways in which social interactions (intersubjectivity is a basic human need) shapes our identity through desire, fear, and aspiration.
Last year I wrote chapter on this topic entitled:
Forster, D.A. 2019. Social identity, social media, and society: A call for public theological engagement. in Theologische Medienethik im digitalen Zeitalter [Theological Media Ethics in a Digital Age] G. Ulshöfer (ed.). Stuttgart: W. Kohlhammer G. Ulshöfer (ed.). 85–106.
In fact I recommend the whole book, which you can get here: https://amzn.to/2RcU3
Thursday
Feb102011

Got sins to confess? There's an app for that!

I enjoy Daniel Mosley's tweets and blog posts. He recently posted this post on the Catholic Church's use of an iPhone app to support the sacrament of reconciliation (confession and penance).

Please see his post here: http://danielmosley.posterous.com/got-sins-to-confess-theres-an-app-for-that

I thought this was a great idea at first glance! I am all for the Church finding contemporary methods (and tools) to reach and serve a much wider audience to aid faith, transformation and wholeness.

The Methodist Church in Britain has done something similar. See my post on this here: http://www.dionforster.com/blog/2010/5/17/methodist-church-launches-an-iphone-app-now-thats-missional.html


And, of course there are a myriad of 'ministries' and 'individuals' who have created tools and apps for devotion, news, encouragement or interaction. Some, like the two mentioned above are 'discipleship' tools to support believers, while others are evangelical tools to reach more people with the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I would highly recommend that you read Tallskinnykiwi's post on evangelism in this space here: http://tallskinnykiwi.typepad.com/tallskinnykiwi/2011/01/social-media-talk-at-lausanne-.html

Back to the confession app, I wonder if I would use it? Of course one major problem is that this sacrament is not part of my theological and spiritual tradition. So, that does cause me to value it a little less for the specific task it performs.

Let me ask, if you are from a tradition that applies this sacrament would you feel comfortable (or not) using such a tool? I'd love to hear why.

Also, are there any other tools or apps that you use, or know of, that you find as important in your faith and spiritual life?

Personally I use the Methodist app mentioned above, and I use the Olivetree Bible app daily on my iPhone and iPad.

Monday
Dec132010

A world map of social networks

When we were preparing for the social networking thrust for the Third Lausanne Congress in Cape Town we tried very hard to build relationships with people across a variety of social networking platforms.

Communication across a variety of platforms is key!  In the social networking world being able to find where people are 'located' is as important as being able to speak their language!  If you speak Chinese on facebook it will reach a few million people, but if you speak English on Qzone you may reach more!  Of course if you speak Chinese on Qzone you'll be able to reach hundreds of millions of people!

So, here's a very interesting infographic that shows what social networking platforms are popular in different regions of the world.

Tuesday
Dec072010

He said She said... Web design and gender

It would be an understatement to say that the brains of men and women are wired differently for communication.

I sometimes wonder whether we're even from the same species! Only kidding (watch out for the FLAME war!)

But, the simple truth is that men and women have different approaches to sharing information and consuming information.  We relate differently to facts and emotions.  Some persons prefere a story (narrative) to facts.  Others prefer safe spaces for interaction and relationship, while some prefer clinical repositories of ideas...

This helpful infographic (download a LARGE VERSION here) gives some wonderful insights into research on how women and men design their websites and blogs in different ways.  I found it fascinating to read.

I see from this that I am 'trustworthy' and 'approachable' (brown...)  Perhaps I should get a little red or pink on here to spice things up a bit!?

So, do you think this infographic is accurate?  Has this been your experience?  I'd love to hear your feedback!

Friday
Dec032010

A Russian tale - don't get left behind! Social Networking, New Media and Mobile

In Russia, just after the 1917 communist revolution, Russia was quite a progressive country!  The new Russian leadership had a good idea of how they wished to restructure society for the good of the people and they were intent on using new technologies of the time to do it.

So, they invested in rolling out the infrastructure for a new technology at the time - except they got it all wrong!  While the rest of the world was pumping money into rolling out telephone systems (exchanges, cables and handsets), Russia chose to invest in loudspeakers... That's right!  They laid cables, planted telephone poles, and fitted loudspeakers to them!

Of course their intention was to motivate the people with patriotic songs, and inspire them with communist propaganda...  The one point they missed is that people are far more likely to get behind you if they feel involved.  If your opinion gets validated, your idea gets heard and incorporated, then you'll support the system.  Nobody likes being 'talked at', much less so through a loudspeaker.

I have come to realise that this is how most companies, and of course many ministries, use the social networking technologies today! In fact you can see what they're going to use it for when their strategy includes the words 'social media' - they are wanting to use social to broadcast their old media (whether it be messages, ideas, sermons, adverts whatever)!  

Social networking works because people are more important than technology! My userbase on facebook and twitter swells when I interact with my friends.  They tweet and retweet my ideas when I tweet and retweet theirs.  When I am interested in them and their ideas I get @ replies and their followers hear about me and my stuff and I meet new people and connect with them...

I'd love to hear what you think about the thoughts I share in this little video about 'The Russian Tale'.

I have a sense that one of the areas in which technology is moving is the mobile space!  And in particular accessing the internet through mobile devices.  Think about these statements and see if you agree with me:

 

  • The number of active internet users is increasing rapidly (in fact I believe that internet usage has increased from 35% to 83% among 19-54 year olds worldwide between 2006-2009).
  • Most internet users spend the majority of their time on social networking platforms (facebook, myspace, linkedin and a host of others).
  • For most people under the age of 35 their primary means of going onto the internet is via a mobile device (phone, iPod etc.)

 

This must change the way we engage and how we do business and share messages!  Take a look at this graph below - look at what OS versions dominate the web (Symbian is huge in Africa!)

I've just finished reading 'The Starfish and the Spider' which gave some fascinating insights into the social dynamics of online communities.  Last night I started reading 'Open leadership:  How social technology can transform the way you lead' (written by Charlene Li) - it is incredibly insightful!

Monday
Nov222010

Adding twitter and facebook buttons to your squarespace blog

Some months ago I moved from blogger.com to squarespace when blogger stopped supporting FTP to personal domains.  I had been contemplating a move for some time since blogger was getting quite slow and restrictive.

I am so pleased that I made the move - squarespace is a hosted blogging service with incredible templates, great feedback and stats, and it just seems to meet my blogging needs.

Today I added two more features to my blog - a retweet button that will allow readers to easily send a post to twitter and a facebook like button. Social networking and social media sharing are a key part of my communication strategy!  As such it is critical to make it as easy as possible for readers to interact with the content on this blog in order to save it, forward it, retweet it, or like it on facebook.

Squarespace has a built in 'share' function (see the bottom of this post for the 'share' button - if you click on it you'll see that it allows you to share a blog post to multiple social networking locations and platforms).  However, since it is an embedded service very few people make use of it.  Quite simply, most of us look for the familiar blue icons of twitter and facebook to share content.

If you have a squarespace blog (or even a wordpress or blogger blog) you can add these buttons to your blog as well.  Simply follow these links:

Now, here's where I would like to ask for your help!  Please could I ask you to find one article on my blog and test the facebook 'like' button or the twitter 'retweet' button?  I'd love to see how they work!  Any feedback is welcome (I made the retweet text a simple reference to my twitter username, the reader can add his or her own text to describe the post).

Thanks! 

Dion

Friday
Oct222010

you google, you SMS, you chat... do you poken!?

Earlier this week a new friend @metaMeerkat dropped by the Cape Town international convention to give me a really cool gift!  She gave me poken!

Poken Cape

This super little social networking device makes connecting with people at social gatherings and conferences so cool and easy!

All that you need to do when you meet another poken user is give them a 'high five' and your details are automatically swopped.  When you next plug your poken into the USB port of your computer it will exchange your data with theirs (giving them access to as much, or as little, data as you want).  In my case I share my web page, phone number, twitter account, facebook details and linkedin profile.

It is super easy to use, much easier than having to swop business cards, as I've been doing here at the Congress all week.

So, if you've got a poken please give me a shout - I'd love to connect!

If not, then why not fire up your blackberry, iPhone, or Nokia phone and scan this QR code?

 

Friday
Oct152010

How to follow the Third Lausanne Congress in Cape Town

It is now just 2 days until we kick off with the Third Lausanne Congress on World Evangelization at the Cape Town International Convention Centre (CTICC)!  We have been working on this congress since early in 2007, and the pace has picked up considerably among our working teams here in South Africa, and elsewhere in the world, over the last few months.

I've been here at the CTICC for the last few days undergoing some orientation and training with hundreds of volunteers, stewards and staff.

I have the great privelage of attending Lausanne as one of the 50 invited participants from South Africa (as a theologian in part, since I serve on the Lausanne Theology working group, but also as a ministry practitioner and new media / social media strategist). 

However, I am also on the Lausanne staff as the Social Networking Manager within the digital communications office.  I'll also be speaking on Friday and participating in two of the 'streams' (the Marketplace / World of Work group and the Resource Mobilization Working Group).

What makes this Congress different from the previous two is that we now have the technology to allow much broader direct participation from all over the globe!  First a one or two points that have stood out for me; among the 4500 participants more than 25% are from Africa.  In fact the majority of participants are from the 'two-thirds' world with a strong emphasis upon younger leaders (headed by Grace Sampson from Nigeria / South Africa), and the input of women.

This is truly the most theologically diverse group of persons I have ever had the chance to gather with.  Among the participants are notable 'conservative' Christians such as Jon Piper, and at the other end of the spectrum on of the best known names in the Emerging Church movement, 'Andrew Jones' (better known as tallskinnykiwi).

So, there is a wide range of culture, a good mix of age and gender, and a great deal of theological diversity.

Back to participation:  I'm not sure if you realise this, but this is the first time in history that we are able to truly contextualise the inputs, discussions and outcomes of a gathering such as this?  No matter who you are, or where you are in the world, your voice can be heard!  You can have a direct input into the plenary, multiplex and discussion sessions through the Global Conversation site.

Moreover, when the Congress is done the conversation is NOT OVER!  In fact, that's when we can truly shape the strategy and theology of the Lausanne movement through our participation.

So, how do you get involved?

1.  Follow the Lausanne Congress on twitter @CapeTown2010 and Facebook.

2.  Join in on the Global Conversation (all of the video, audio and reports will be posted here and you can comment, discuss and engage with millions across the world on the issues and the presentations).

3. Go to a Global Link site (if there is one in your area).

4.  Encourage others to blog, tweet, and post their ideas and feedback on their own sites and feeds.  We would ask you please to consider using the hash tags #LCWE and #CapeTown2010 in your posts so that my team can track what you're saying and highlight it to the rest of the world!

Below is an encouragement from Andrew Jones (tallskinnykiwi):

The global mission event of the century is only a week away! Its the Third Lausanne World Congress on World Evangelization also known as Lausanne 3.

Its HUGE!. We're talking 5000 invited delegates from all over the world.

Its bigger than Lausanne 1 and even bigger than Lausanne 2.

Its bigger than Edinburgh 1910 and 2010

Its the most wired, webbed, blogged, twittered, streamed missions event EVER!

Its also more SOUTHERLY than any missions conference you have ever followed. It happens in Cape Town, South Africa and it starts next week. Like Oct 16 - 25th

Its time to point your computer towards Cape Town for a MEGA MISSION RUSH that's going to:

TURN your tiny view of the global church upside down!
SMASH your small ambitions into pathetic, wriggling inadequacies!
REAWAKEN your inner William Carey into the 21st Century!
REPOSITION your priorities into the groove of what God is doing NOW in the world that He loves!

Here are the links you need:

Official Lausanne Cape Town 2010 website and blog

Tall Skinny Kiwi blog right here for happenings, thoughts, images, trivia, whats for lunch, the coolest haircuts and the dorkiest ties and worthy blog moments in general. I arrive in Cape Town on Oct 14th and leave Oct 26th and I will deliver the congress to you in blog sized bites.

Notes on Lausanne - Outreach Magazine's dedicated blog page for Cape Town featuring ME and my more profound thoughts and responses to the presentations, speakers, events and takeaways for you and your church.

Follow CapeTown2010 on Twitter. Add the column to your Tweetdeck.

Watch these Twitter hashtags: #CapeTown2010 #LCWE #CapeTownIdeas #CapeTownQuotes

Join Lausanne on Facebook

Stay tuned and I will keep you streamed with all the right stuff.

UPDATE: Thanks Jon Hirst for these others links:
GlobaLink locations:

Online Participation:
RSS of CT2010 news (includes Lausanne blog)
Video Podcast which is also on iTunes and an
Audio podcast which you can also get straight from iTunes,
All congress video and an email newsletter (for daily news summaries/highlights):

And here is another one from another one of our Lausanne Blogger Network team, Stephen Murray:

In just over four days time the most significant evangelical congress to ever take place on South African shores will kick into action. Over 5000 participants, volunteers and staff from all over the world will converge on the Cape Town International Convention Center to participate in hearing and adding their many voices to some of the most pressing issues in world evangelism today.

You can follow the events as they unfold through the following links:

Cape Town 2010 official website

Cape Town 2010 blog

The Global Conversation

Alongside this you can follow @capetown2010 on Twitter or join the official Facebook page.

I, along with some colleagues will be onsite observing and microblogging the event live through the official twitter feed and on the Facebook page. The aim of the congress is to truly allow for global participation through technology and various forms of media. So we really want to encourage you to follow the congress and interact with the content through the various platforms.

Finaly!  If you are a member of the Lausanne Blogger Network, a participant or a volunteer at Cape Town 2010, then please make contact with me!  We are planning a tweet-up during the congress!  It'll be great to connect with everyone who's been tweeting and posting about Lausanne.  Please DM me @digitaldion or give me a text message or call on +27834564855.

Sunday
Oct102010

One week to go until the start of the Third Lausanne Congress on World Evangelization!

In one week from today (Sunday the 17th of October 2010) the Third Lausanne Congress on World Evangelization will kick off at the Cape Town International Convention Centre in Cape Town!  To view a short video (or read about) the history of the Lausanne movement please follow this link.  And, for a post that has information about all the sources where you can get information about talks, videos, publications and intereactions around Lausanne please visit this link.

This congress is the culmination of years of physical labour (preparing the venues, booking flights, securing VISA's, getting hotels sorted out planning programs, inviting participants etc.) and prayer and theological work! I've had the privelage of serving in various capacities on the Lausanne team (heading up Social Networking, serving on the Theology working group, the 'World of Work' / Marketplace group and also on the Resource Mobilization working group.  Together with that I am part of the arrangements team that has planned and executed the practical arrangements for the congress (the CTICC, volunteers (which my wonder wife Megan has managed), transport etc.).

This is going to be a truly significant meeting of leaders from all over the world coming together to do theology and develop strategy for the establishment of God's good news, God's gracious Kingdon, all across the earth!

If you're interested in my previous posts about Lausanne please visit this link.  Here's a general link of Lausanne related posts that I've made since I joined the team early in 2008.

Steve Hayes, one of the most respected bloggers in South Africa, wrote a great article on one of his blogs asking why there is not more 'buzz' and interest around Lausanne in South Africa.  It got me thinking!  Here's my response to Steve.

Before you dive into it - please can I encourage you to pray for the 4500 people from over 170 nations across the earth who are traveling to Cape Town for the congress?  Please pray for the proceedigns, and PLEASE make your voice heard!  Even if you're not in Cape Town please join our Twitter feed and stay up to date with what is happening and share your comments, ideas and feedback!  Our twitter feed is @CapeTown2010 and you can join our facbook page here.

Hi Steve,

Thanks for the post! I am continually grateful for the exposure that you give to Lausanne on your blogs.  Thank you.

The idea that Lausanne is not gaining much attention or favour among South African Christians is valid to a point.

I've thought about the reasons for this often.  In part it is because we can only have 50 'chosen' participants - that is a tiny representation per nation who are at the congress!  You may find that everywhere (except America) has a similar problem with getting ordinary Christians excited about something that is not easy to participate in.

Second, I have thought that we in South Africa do not have a traditionally large 'evangelical' Christian community.  Rather, we have main line conservative and liberal Christians, a growing number of pentecostal and charismatic groupings, and of course a massive African Initiated Christian grouping.

I'm sure that there are many other reasons as well.

However, let me add to this that South Africa has more active participants in the official blogger network than any other country (except America).  Among the official Lausanne Blogger Network participants from South Africa are many of the top 20 Christian (Religion) bloggers.  They include:

Stephen Murray, Mark Penrith, Peter Houston, John van de Laar, and my blogYou (and here) have also done a sterling job to promote and highlight many of the issues of Lausanne directly and indirectly.

I have asked Stephen Murray to come to Lausanne as a 'social networking' and 'blogger' champion.  We shall also have Andrew Jones (tallskinnykiwi) and Aaron Marshall (techsmo and churchsmo) on site.

It is my hope that we shall generate a great deal of content and participation during the congress, and continue the interest once the congress is done!

The simplest way to stay up to date is to either follow Lausanne on twitter @CapeTown2010 or join our Lausanne facbook page.

Finally, because each country was only able to have 50 delegates present we have set up 'global link' sites across the world.  These sites are open for anyone to attend and the proceedings, presentations and discussions of the Cape Town congress will be beamed out via satellite.

Thanks for posting your thoughts and for the opportunity to post this response.  I'll add it to my blog as well.

Rich blessing,

Dion

Please check in on my blog for more as we share from the congress itself.

God bless,

Dion

Friday
Sep242010

Why do you use twitter !? Here's what I say...

If you're a twitter user I'm sure someone has asked you 'Why on earth do you use twitter?' I have many people saying to me 'I just don't get it... What is the purpose of twitter?'

Most people just don't get it...No harm!

Well, here's my answer to that question!  A great little video that explains where twitter fits into the social networking and digital communications landscape! It is only 2 minutes long and really explains why (and to some extent how) I use twitter!

Remember when twitter used to ask 'What are you doing?'  Those where the good old days!

PS.  FOLLOW ME on twitter @digitaldion  ... You won't be sorry (well, not too sorry!)

Wednesday
Sep012010

The breakdown of social control and the democratization of intimacy

I remember when I was conscripted into the army more than two decades ago. I went into social isolation - it was long before cell phones and the remote military base where I was trained only had one working public telephone for the few hundred troops stationed there.

I forgot my birthday that year! The 14th of January came and went... It was some days later when I met the only other guy from my town at the dining hall when I realised that I had turned a year older.  Because I was completely cut off from my regular social circle during my basic training I had no concept of the social milestones of life.

This is an extreme example, but in reality contemporary society is shaped towards social control.  Pre-schools for infant children are little more than places in which children are lovingly (I hope!) taught to endure longer and longer periods of isolation from their regular social circle.  The children learn to be away from their families for extended periods of time.  They also learn to perform tasks that will make them a productive part of society at some point. Primary and secondary schooling takes this a step further (children dress in a uniform to differentiate them from home, they are ranked in classes and groups according to their language, age, and even intellect - all the while they are punished for using cell phones to phone or text friends and parents). Of course the workplace is another setting that enforces social control.  How many companies do you know that do not allow social networking technologies, such as instant messaging, skype, and facebook and such tools? With the advent of separate working and living areas people often leave their familiar surroundings behind for hours at a time (perhaps most of their waking hours) to enter into an environment that is not geared towards social support and intimacy.  The workplace is intended to restrict such distractions.  Sometimes there are safety concerns, but most often it has to do with productivity and finance.

However, with the rise of accessible social media technologies I have seen a remarkable trend towards the democratization of intimacy - what does this mean?  Well, let me give you an example.  This morning I arrived at my office at 5.45 AM.  I had an early meeting - however, at 7.30 AM I pulled myself aside and used my cellular phone to call my wife and children at home to 'connect' with them and wish them well for the day.  I was taking back my need for intimacy with my family.

I frequently travel (this weekend I shall be in Johannesburg, and in just over a week I shall be in Hong Kong and China for a week).  Skype makes this much more bearable!  It started for me back in 2005 when I was on a sabbatical in America.  While staying on the Duke University Campus in North Carolina I would connect my Apple Powerbook via wifi and use iChat (I have of course since moved onto Skype) to connect with my wife and infant daughter back in South Africa.  We would leave the video camera running as I worked, ate my meals, watched TV etc. My wife and daughter would go about their daily tasks.  It was almost as if we were in the same room!  We could see and hear one another, yet we were separated by thousands of miles!

More recently since my son was born I have truly come to appreciate this technology anew - for some years he was too young to talk on the phone.  Video conferencing (that is mostly FREE!) is an incredible way to cultivate and sustain a relationship when one has to be away from home - particularly when your son is too young to talk.

Of course there are many other ways in which people are subverting social control and 'taking back' intimacy! Text messaging is perhaps one of the most pervasive forms of 'communication technology'.  It is affordable and has a very broad reach (most people have cellular phones). For the wealthier population, facebook, twitter and other such social networking tools seem to be mechanisms of choice.

I wonder how long it will be before corporations realise that you can't stop people from connecting with one another; soon we will move from separating workers from their lives, towards integrating their intimacy needs with their family into a healthy working environment. I know that Google, for example, provides on site child care, flexible working hours and other such benefits to help staff deliver their best work while keeping this social balance.

The sociologist - Stefana Broadbent - did an amazing talk on this topic of social networking and intimacy at TED. It is well worth watching.  Her research shows how people are taking back intimacy in a world of social control. 

I'd love to hear how you keep contact with your family and friends in spite of the constraints of social control. What works best for you?  Is it the trusty old phone call, or do you use text messaging, skype, or even Apple's 'facetime'? I know a few people who have turned to Blackberry Messenger of late, and of course for those of us in the iPhone 'Whatsapp' is a great IM alternative!